Nice Attitude

On today’s podcast…

2:04 – Andy’s book The Traveler’s Gift

6:00 – Homeless, living under a pier, Andy is introduced to something that would change his life forever

8:56 – “…the quality of our answers can only be determined by the quality of our questions…”

13:18 – The connection being controlling your emotions and being nice

18:36 – Training your emotions like you train your dog

23:00 – The guaranteed way to become valuable

30:00 – A game in a swimming pool reveals that “the best you can do,” isn’t always “the best that can be done.”

33:56 – Wisdom through the decades

38:25 – Take a breath, figure out your passion

43:38 – Kenny Rogers gives Andy and his seven things a boost

48:22 – “You need to stop listening to yourself so much and start talking to yourself again.”

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Booster #1: Andy Andrews From Homelessness to Best-Selling Author

We are with the super talented, influential. Somebody I have considered a mentor from afar. The one and only Andy Andrews. Andy, welcome to the show. We are happy to have you. Andy is a legend, a New York Times Bestselling Author, Speaker, and a Leading Thought Leader in America on personal development.

Thank you. I appreciate and I am honored to be here with you.

We are looking forward to hearing your knowledge and your thoughts on how you bridge the GAP from who you were to who you became and from where you were to where you want to become. I was doing a little research. Your book, The Traveler’s Gift came to my thoughts as we try to bridge the GAP for our GAPers. You could talk to us about where you started and where you were before you became this huge influencer. Those seven nuggets in The Traveler’s Gift that you had. Talk to the people that may be somewhere they don’t want to be. My guess is you have been somewhere you don’t want to be and we would love to hear that story.

We all have. We are all either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis or headed for a crisis. That’s part of being with us on this planet. I’m not unusual. I was in tough situations before. You are kind to say, “Where you were and what you have become.” I am in a state of becoming. I’m a dad, a husband and a friend. I’m always working on this but I did have a crazy time. I know what you are referring to. When I was nineteen, my parents died. I made some bad moves and ended up homeless before I was even working.

Nobody was talking about homeless people many years ago. I was living on the beach and sleeping under a pier. I was in and out of people’s garages, which is not safe or smart but I did. I met an old guy, who became a mentor of mine. I started reading. I had always been a sports illustrated, pretty extreme guy but he got me started reading books and biographies. I read a ton of them and it made graphs in my mind about who these people were, where they would come from, what they had done, and identified seven things.

I didn’t even know what to call them. I just called them things. They weren’t seven characteristics or seven habits. They were things to me. I know them now as principles and began to apply them. Years later, those became the Seven Decisions in The Traveler’s Gift. I’m still the same old bozo kicking along and trying to notice some things that can help people.

Number five on our card is to have A Mentor, Copy Him or Her. You have already hit one of the Boosters. Andy is here to talk to us about Boosters number one, Be Nice, and number 6, Control Your Emotions. Out of the gate, he hits number five. How about giving a little credit to that mentor? I would love to know 1 or 2 of the books that he recommended that changed it for you.

This was an old man.

What was his name?

His name was Jones. We didn’t call him Mr. Jones. We were calling him Jones. We didn’t know where he was from, where he went, where he stayed when he was in town. He was in and out. We didn’t know what was in his suitcase. He was an old, white-haired dude.

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Is this when you were on the street when you were homeless? Is that when you met this guy?

Yes. I met him under my pier one night, which scared me to death. He was the guy who told me the truth about myself and had me start reading. One day, he gave me three books. I knew off the bat that they were biographies because all they had were names on them. It was a Winston Churchill, George Washington Carver and Will Rogers. I hated biographies in school. I don’t know why, maybe because they made me read them.

When he gave them to me, I said, “Biographies?” He said, “No. These are adventure stories. These are mysteries, romances, thrillers and they are all true. They are from the library. When you get through with them, take them back.” I was like, “Thanks.” I started reading those things and I became interested in these people. I ended up reading over 200 biographies of these happy, influential, great people.

When I say that, it makes me think, “Do they do biographies of any other kind of people?” Not like a loser section at Barnes & Noble. I’m reading these people and thinking, “How did they turn out like this? Were they born this way? If they were born this way, I’m obviously out of luck but if they did something, what did they do? How long did it take them to do it?”

Here’s the title of your next book, Mentorship from Under the Pier. The message there is mentors don’t have to be glossy, glamorous and educated. Sometimes we can find lessons, learn more and grow more from people that are in the shadows. How many times do we walk by the opportunity to learn?

You did have a choice. If you make a point to learn, not just wander around and hope that the paradise lands on your shoulder and you have to have some cloak or something, you make it to a point to learn, watch and notice. This old man called himself a noticer. He said, “When God was passing out talents, I didn’t get the cool ones. I can’t run fast. I can’t sing great but I noticed little things that make a difference in people’s lives. I bring perspective.” I wrote a book about him called The Noticer. This old guy inspired me to do the same thing. We all can.

I talk to people all the time and I say, “I believe that the quality of our answers can only be determined by the quality of our questions because I had only tried to ask good questions.” I will meet people all the time and I say, “What is the smartest thing your daddy ever did? What was one time in your life that you looked at something and you thought, ‘This is something I’m going to carry with me?’” Thinking about your audience, you’ve got this awesome bunch of people all over the world listening to what you are doing. A lot of them feel as if I have to become something else. We have all heard, “You need to be the best you can be.” That’s true even though we don’t believe it sometimes.

I want your audience to know you not only can you make yourself into an awesome you but there is a book you need to write. I can even tell you what the title of the book is. Whatever it is that you do, you are meeting people every day. You know how we meet people and we say, “That was the interesting way. We can write a book.” I go, “We could write a book. Believe me.” I don’t care what they are doing. They can work in a dime store. The people that are coming here? We could write a book. You are a flight attendant? Yes. Big Boeing it was? We could write a book.

Whoever it is. If you are reading this, here’s the title of your book. If you are a teacher, here’s a great title, What I Learned Sitting At The Biggest Desk In The Room. If you are a driver, What I Learned From The Backseat While I Was Sitting In The Front Seat. There are many things that you can be hugely valuable to people.

There’s a story inside of everybody, whether you are in sales, serving food or a teacher. When we talk about, number one, being nice, it’s finding the story inside of everybody. Louise Thaxton has been on our show. Her interview was ridiculous. She said, “Glenn, you’ve got to learn how to make the people the hero of their own story. That’s my trick.” That blew me away. These are the types of quality people that we can attract to this show. I know you have done a lot with Fairway. We are going to get Steve on there, too. Tell me about some of the stories you have heard from your customers that have impacted you or caused you to pivot your attitude or the way you think.

Since you are talking Fairway, I have many examples with that company. I feel like I’m a broken record. I was a guest on another show and they asked me the same question. My answer was Jake. I worked with a ton of companies, coaches and CEOs. This guy is the best.

We are going to get him on the show. He hasn’t agreed to it yet.

He would go, “No.” That’s a part of why he is the best. It’s tough to find somebody who has the rapid success that doesn’t follow it up with a lot of bad choices. Steve Jacobson has always managed to keep his eye and his attitude on helping other people and helping other people become. When you have a CEO of a company who can genuinely watch out for the people who work for that company is making sure that the customer is served. He watches out for the customer by making sure we serve this person. He is the most effective person I have ever seen it. Getting his eye off himself and getting it on somebody else.

It’s a tough thing for anybody to pull off but it’s harder for a CEO or Head Coach because you are in a position where people are always going, “Is your orange juice okay? Are your eggs done right?” I have seen many entertainers, speakers, CEOs, and government officials turn into crazy people and monsters where it’s like, “As a matter of fact, my eggs are not okay and 50 people are going to pay for it because my eggs are a little runny.”

That’s a great segue into Attitude Booster number one, which is being nice. The bottom line is it’s number one for a reason. Not to put you on the spot but I sure would love you to talk to me about what has been nice meant to you. What are examples of people being nice that you have seen that have paid big dividends for the people that are reading this?

I always tell people complimenting others is one of the biggest things about being nice. I always challenge people, how many compliments have you given? I don’t care if they are sincere or insincere. I said, “Go ahead and give insincere compliments. You should hear the room. It lights up. People are laughing. Everybody feels better and their attitudes rise.” Talk to me about what being nice means to you. Some stories, examples. I would love to hear your take on be nice.

You asked me earlier, you said, “Do any of these ten strike you?” I said number 1 and number 6. Let me talk about number 1 and number 6 at the same time. I don’t think that you can talk about number one, being nice, unless you understand number six, controlling your emotions. Number six, when we say control your emotions, what we are talking about is having a high emotional IQ. You want your relationships to be with people who have high emotional IQs.

If you dig down deep into the bottom of the pool and think very carefully about this, you will find that you patronize businesses that are owned by people or run by people with high emotional IQs. Going out there and never go into that place again. Those are the places you lead. If you will examine it, you will realize the people you dealt with had a low emotional IQ.

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What am I talking about with the low emotional IQ? My boys are teenagers. When you are raising your kids, you talk about what’s important. What do we allow them to figure out? What do we explain now? There are a lot that goes into it. One of the things that I realized that was one of the most important things that I was going to make sure before my kids ever left home is they were going to know that they could act a certain way despite how they might feel at the moment. That’s the ability to have a high emotional IQ. It’s to understand that your emotions are controlled by you.

If you allow your emotions to control you, that is like somebody saying, “I’m going to get a Doberman Pinscher. I’m going to get a Pitbull. I’m going to get some monster dog, an Irish Wolfhound. I’m going to get a leash and a collar but I’m going to tie it to my arm. I’ve got to train them.” If you’ve got an Irish Wolfhound, you’ve got a 220-pound dog. If you’ve got a bulldog, you’ve got a lion. You get a dog that fights lions in South Africa. This thing was 250-pounds. If he doesn’t want to go where you want to go, you are not going. If he wants to go somewhere else, you are going with him.

You train a dog because this dog is not autonomous. This dog cannot live, think and be fed on its own and find water when it needs water. This dog cannot cross the street safely every time. The dog has to be trained. Even after the dog is trained, the dog has to be controlled. It has to have re-ups on its training. There’s a constant source of never-ending improvement. The same is true with our emotions.

You look at number six, controlling your emotions. It is possible to snap your finger if you are right there and shake a dog into submission. It is also possible how people go, “That’s the way I am. Is she going to say that to me? I’m coming back. I have red hair. I come from Texas. I lived all my life in the water.” I don’t know what it is but people go, “My mama was right. That’s just the way I am.” If you don’t say it, this is what I’m going to do. You are not this way and I don’t care if you even think you are this way.

If you would stop for a second, sit back, and think your way to the bottom of the pool on yourself, you will realize that there are times in your life that you can be in your home talking with a child and your spouse. Do you think you can’t control your emotions immediately? You can. You can be dealing with something like, “How many times do I have to tell you? If I have to deal with this one more time.” When the phone rings, you will go, “Hello? How are you?” We would change who we are for somebody who we don’t even know who’s calling. Certainly, we could change who we are for the people we love.

One of my favorite sayings is, “How long does it take to change your life?” A heartbeat can change your life. You almost had that. Let’s talk about finding your way to the bottom of the pool, which you mentioned. It’s your brand new book. Give us a little synopsis or peek inside the covers of what is The Bottom of the Pool. Why did you come up with that? What’s the big takeaway?

It sounds like a horror movie, doesn’t it? Until you read the subtitle. The subtitle is Thinking Beyond Your Boundaries To Achieve Extraordinary Results. One of the things I realized in what we refer to as my career is that I’m an ordinary guy. I don’t have a Super Bowl ring. I was never the hero of some national disaster. I never landed a plane on a river. If a corporation is going to bring me in to speak, somebody has a Super Bowl ring. He’s worth $75,000. If somebody brings me in to speak, you would probably get me if you say, “We will pay half of your meals.” That’s me because who is Andy Andrews? I had to figure out a way how do I make myself valuable.

It’s the only way I can make myself valuable. I’m not a valuable person because I don’t have the rings, a radio show, a television show or gold medals. “You are a valuable person. You are a dad, a husband and a friend.” There’s what? Three hundred twenty million of those walking around. The only way that I can be valuable is to create value for you if I can create value for a corporation or a team.

I’m not just saying, “We gave him a standing ovation. That was the greatest speech we ever had.” What value is that? It’s a pat on the back. I had to figure out, “How do I go below the surface of what everybody else beliefs?” There are industry standards and best practices for everything. Best practices are, you don’t pay a guy like Andy Andrews $75,000 to come to speak. That’s the industry standard for somebody who has won three Super Bowls, somebody who has starred on a sitcom or somebody who has won awards. I’m never going to be a celebrity.

You are being humble.

I’m not being humble. I have thought to the bottom of the pool about me. You can point to a bunch of things. You can say, “You were in the New York Times Bestsellers.” “Can the average person out there name them?” No. You say, “You have spoken for four different presidents.” Do you know which ones? No.

How many times do you speak in a year? How many gigs do you get a year?

I don’t know. Hang with me here. You can say, “Andy Andrews has been a part of National Championships for college football teams.” Do you know which ones? Have the coaches gone out and told everybody? No. What I’m saying is I’m by myself and even what I have done is not valuable. The only valuable thing is if I manage to help you. Whoever you are, you have worked for years.

Your company is where you are after years. You have designed your company perfectly to produce exactly what it’s producing now. If I can come in, somebody who doesn’t know anything about your industry or company, I don’t know what industry standards are, which means I don’t know what can’t be done. If the word gets out that Glenn Bill goes in and every time he speaks within six months, the company makes $50 million.

They have made that correlation and CEOs, and people are talking about it. “There’s this guy.” “What has he done?” “I don’t know what he’s done.” “Is he a football player?” “No. I know he’s not a football player.” “Is he good-looking?” “He’s okay.” “Is he married to a supermodel?” “No.” “Has he written books?” “Yes.” What has he done? I don’t know but I will tell you this. There’s a ton of CEOs out there that every time Glenn Bill comes to speak within six months, the company adds $50 million to what they are doing. At that point, “Are we going to pay Glenn Bill $1 million a speech?” They are not asking that question. The question is will Glenn take $1.5 million for two speeches if we do them on the same day? The value is there and proven.

When we looked at the back of your book, they were not warm and fuzzy testimonials. The testimonials on the back of The Bottom of the Pool are finite. They are result-driven testimonials.

You asked me about The Bottom of the Pool, didn’t you?

I did. You are a wonderful Southerner.

I needed you in a heartbeat. When I’m eleven years old, my buddies and I, got dropped off at the pool like every other kid. The pool was our babysitter. We spent the summer there and we’ve got sick of Marco Polo and Atomic Water Ball. We started inventing our own games. We invented a game called Dolphin because Flipper was on TV. Flipper would come up out of the water and stand on his tail.

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We would get into this deep end, circle up one at a time, go in the middle of the circle, try to come up out of the water, and see how high out of the water we could get. You are using your hands and your feet to push water and try to get up. We had this kid, Aaron Perry, who was bigger and older than we were. He won every single time to we were almost sick of the game. Until my friend, Kevin Perkins, destroyed it. Kevin goes to the middle of the circle. Everybody is waiting on this same thing to happen but this time, this kid goes down instead of up.

We are all looking and going, “What is he doing?” He goes all the way to the bottom and then squats down. Before we can figure out what’s going on, he pushes off the bottom, comes rocketing out of the top way higher than anybody has ever gone. It’s a new reality. He doubled what anybody else had ever done. If you would come to us and said, “Are you guys doing the best you can do?” We would have said, “Absolutely.” We were looking at Aaron. He was the industry standard. He had the best practices model and we were learning.

We didn’t understand that there was another mark out there that we weren’t even aware of. We were doing the best that we could do but we weren’t doing the best that could be done. While we were learning how to do this, the industry standards, the best practices, this is how you cup your hands and feet, it was obvious how you do this and come up out of the water. At least it was obvious until one kid went down instead of up. Everything that had been obvious was no longer even true.

I love the story and I can’t wait to read the book. I hope that all of our GAPers go to AndyAndrews.com and get that book. Andy, we always like to close our show with this wonderful segment called Knowledge Through The Decades. It’s a GAP original where we ask our guests to go back in time and give us the best lessons of your life through the decades.

I always remind our guests, this is an on-the-spot interview. Some people go, “I feel too pressured.” I’m like, “I can edit out any bad answers.” There’s no pressure. What we want you to do is I want you to think of yourself as a new baby. If it’s too hard, think of a baby. We were all babies. What is the best lesson you can learn from a baby or what is the best lesson you can share from being a baby about life and bridging the GAP?

Things slow down and get a lot easier when you cry smile and coo but they get frantic when you scream.

I want you to think about yourself in Alabama at that pool. I know you were 11, but you are also 10 before that. I want you to think back to when you were ten years old. What comes out of your soul when you think about being ten? Where you were in your life and the lesson that you could give our GAPers?

If you can listen to spite everybody’s ability to put something in your hands to capture your attention, your life will go a lot better, things will come to you a lot faster and you will understand a lot more.

Did you have trouble listening when you were young?

There weren’t all the games. I did have trouble listening when I was young but my parents told me, “You can stay up and listen to the adults. You can listen to everybody talk but if you talk, you are going to bed. Stay up as long as you want to but if you talk or if we notice you, you are going to bed.” I learned the art of conversation.

I learned how to disagree agreeably. I learned so much from those conversations that I didn’t realize that I learning. I fear for our generations when somebody says, “You go in here and you watch this video.” We have generations of people who have grown up without watching anybody disagree agreeably.

I’m from a huge family. I was always encouraged to stay up and watch conversations. I used to sit on top of our refrigerator in a corner of our kitchen. My family was a lot of scotch drinkers and cigarette smokers. I would listen for hours on end to my uncles and my parents.

You figured it out quickly, “If they notice I’m here, they are going to get me out of this room.”

The stories were so good. I would never interrupt. They are the greatest storytellers of all time back in the ‘60s and ‘70s. When you think about being twenty, talk to us about where you were. What was your mentality and what’s the knowledge of that decade for you?

When I was twenty, my parents had just died. I left college. I didn’t quit. When you quit, you sign stuff and you tell people. I never went back. My advice from that time would be, “Take a breath. Figure out what your passion is and understand that there will be money that will come to you later in life when you know how you want to put that money to use. Don’t make decisions that are going to put you in a position later in your life where you are going to have to pay money for the decisions you made when you didn’t know what you wanted to do. Now, you don’t have any money to fund what you really want to do.”

I’ve got three Millennials. All in their twenties.  What you are saying is true. Everybody is putting pressure because my kids got $80,000 in student loans. “Hurry up and get a career.” When we talk about attitude, it’s the way you dedicate yourself to the way you think. I always tell people, “If you are not living your vision, you are living somebody else’s.” You can get trapped. Andy, I know you see it.

Some people are 50 or 60 years old, you say, “Why the hell are you still working at this company?” They go, “I don’t know. I have no idea why.” It’s powerful advice for our Millennial twenty-year-old readers. You walk through the twenties and things start happening. I would love to know you in your twenties. I bet that was quite an experience. What was your profession or job when you were in your twenties?

In the first half of my twenties, I was selling bait, catching fish, cleaning fish for people and washing boats. In the last part of my twenties, I worked as a comedian.

A stand-up comedian. Do You remember your best joke?

They were all pretty average but number 1 and number 6 on the Attitude Boosters stood me in very good stead. If you ask me what I would tell people at age 30, I will tell you why an average comedian was able to work for two years as the only opening act for Joan Rivers. Five years with Kenny Rogers and tour with Garth Brooks, Chaka Khan, Cher and Randy Travis. I could name a ton of them.

Did you do that in your 20s or your 30s?

It was in my late 20s and then in my 30s.

We are going to go ahead and ask you what’s your best life lesson. What was your best knowledge booster when you were 30? What became crystal clear to you?

Smile while you talk.

Isn’t that great? Think if we all did that.

I’m not saying smile a lot. I would say smile while you talk because if you are communicating with people and you are a comedian with average material, it helps if they like you a lot. If you are a sales professional and you want to close the deal, it helps if they like you a lot. If your wife is mad at you and you know she is a 10 and you clean up to be a 6, it helps a lot if she likes you.

One of my real estate mentor, Steve Decatur, that was his rule. Whenever I bring bad news, I’m always smiling. If the offer is $1 million off of where you wanted, he smiles. Sounds like in your young 30s, you are on the road and with some pretty powerful people. You are with that celebrity that you knew. Certainly, some lessons to learn there. All of a sudden, you hit 40 and you look back and go, “Holy moly, look what I have done.” From cleaning bait to being with celebrities. Now, you are 40, where were you? What was in your mind? What was going on and what was the lesson? What was the mantra?

I was beginning to transition. Kenny Rogers and I were on a bus and were talking about how we grew up. I was talking about those seven things that I learned and he was telling me about growing up in a garage in Houston. He said, “You need to start talking about those seven things.” I said, “They are not funny.” He said, “They are interesting and you are a talker. You work them in.” I said, “Be funny and then be serious?” He said, “Yes, and then be funny again.” I said, “Do you want me to do it in your show?” He said, “I think so.” I did. I was transitioning.

Soon after that, I wrote The Traveler’s Gift and that overtook everything to such a degree. I haven’t been booked as a comedian in twenty-some years. I’m worth a certain amount as a comedian but my value is greater in using the things I learned as a comedian to help other people. The thing that I would tell you is at 40, “Don’t be stuck on where you are. Look at what you have done as preparation. Not what you have done to get you to this destination. There is more and it may not look like this.”

It’s never too late to start. 40 is the new 30 and it’s almost like a springboard. It’s like you are on that diving board at 40, your weight, and everything is done, then the trajectory hits. You write this book called The Traveler’s Gift. It goes crazy. Now, you are starting to tune in to books and do keynote speeches. Success is becoming a view and it is happening for you.

You may have said, “I can’t believe this boy from Alabama is doing all this.” All of a sudden, you turn 50. I didn’t mind turning 50 but 51 made me think about me things. I had a lot of fun turning 50. When you were 50, what did that look like for you? Talk to our GAPers out there who may be sitting at 50. What’s your mindset and your experience when that number hits?

I can tell you what I would tell them without even explaining where I was and you will get it. You know how you read stuff about yourself or somebody will say something about you occasionally and it punches you in the gut. They didn’t like your book. They didn’t like what you said or how you said it. It feels like, “This is what I do for a living. It’s like somebody came and told me my baby was ugly.” Do you know how that feels? We all do. Everybody does. The other side of it is you’ve got people to look at you and go, “You changed my life. You are the best I have ever seen.”

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The 50-year-old Andy would tell you that the first batch, they are wrong. You’ve got to remember the second batch, they might be wrong, too. You’ve got to keep yourself with the emotional IQ. Number six on the Attitude Boosters. You’ve got to keep a clear view of yourself and understand that you are never as bad as some people think and you are never as great as they think either.

It’s a great message for all of us but sometimes that’s tough for people to do to live in reality. What do you see as the biggest mistakes people make with their attitude and/or the biggest mistakes people make with their reality?

The biggest mistakes, I believe, people make with their reality is to believe that they cannot control their attitude

False beliefs when it’s all said and done.

You mentioned false belief. That old man, Jones, told me one time, “You need to stop listening to yourself so much and start talking to yourself again.”

That’s a golden nugget right there. I wonder where old Jones was. I would love to get his knowledge through the decades.

I don’t know because if you look at him, I wouldn’t know if he was 80 or 180.

He probably had a tough life. I believe that we are going to come to the last decade. You just turned 60, if you don’t mind me saying. Is that correct?

I did.

You have done a lot. You have helped a lot of people. You are a genuinely great person and we thank you for being here. The messaging that you gave us about helping other people by creating value in others’ lives to give value and talk about Jones, this has been an incredible interview. There are many nuggets that you dropped for our people to help them get to where they want to become and help them get to where they want to be.

Your honest feedback about life and your reflection on what’s going on in your life is very powerful. It will all culminate in this. We’ve got this 60-year-old Andy Andrews. What are you telling yourself? What are you telling your audiences? What do you want to tell our GAPers about the best advice you could give somebody that’s sitting in their car reading this?

Look at all the people you call friends. Eddie is a friend. They are friends. She is a friend. There are a lot of them. When you get to this age, there are a lot of people you call friends. Here’s what I want to tell you. You don’t have as many friends as you think you do. However, real friends are more valuable tenfold than the value of what you previously thought the value was of all those people.

There is a point in everybody’s life when you come to the end of yourself, you realize who’s still standing and if you understand the value of those people in your life, you will be down on your knees thanking God for those people and you will understand how blessed you are to have those people who knew everything about you. They don’t think that you are horrible and the greatest thing in the world. They love you. You are valuable to them and their family. They would protect you with everything they have. When you come to that, it’s a wonderful thing.

What a great way to end the show. The bottom line is it’s those people who love you for you. They are the greatest attitude boost in the world when you can go out and share your appreciation and gratitude for those special inside circle people. If you want to talk about boosting your attitude, being positive, and being grateful, start looking around and identifying those never-failing friends. Andy, it has been great. I feel like we are friends. I haven’t been around a long time.

We are.

We have gotten to know each other. I’m grateful to you for your thoughtfulness, your kindness, your message about emotional intelligence, controlling your emotions and being nice. You were an outstanding guest. I hope that if this episode boosted your attitude, please share it with a friend on social media and join the Attitude Movement on Facebook and check us out at TheUniversityOfAttitude.com. Andy, I hope to have you at the University of Attitude sometime. I never graduated from college, so I went ahead and invented one.

I didn’t graduate from college either, so I’m right there with you.

I hope someday to be as successful and impactful as you. You impacted our audience. I’m grateful to you. Ladies and gentlemen, Andy Andrews. Thank you.

Thank you so much.

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About Andy Andrews

Nice AttitudeIn order to center your attitude towards “nice” you must control your emotions. It can be a difficult task on a normal day but what if we’re burdened by tragedy and hardship. Our guest today, Andy Andrews knows all about the unexpected difficulties life can throw at you and how difficult it can be to be nice through it all.

Andy is the author of The Traveler’s Gift and The Bottom of the Pool. Hailed by a New York Times reporter as “someone who has quietly become one of the most influential people in America,” Andy Andrews is an internationally known speaker and author. Leaders from the world’s top organizations—including four U.S. presidents—regularly seek him out as a trusted resource for unlocking extraordinary results.

At 19, Andy lost his mother and father months apart and found himself homeless after a series of poor financial decisions. A trip to the library while living under a pier on the Gulf Coast turned Andy’s life around. His journey from drifter to in-demand speaker, consultant and coach is extraordinary and he’s here to share it with you today. Andy discusses why he believes the key to Booster #1: Be Nice can be found in Booster #6: Control Your Emotions.

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